How can I make deeper connections instead of superficial friendships?
Answered by Rika Rijal, consultant psychiatrist
In an age of social media and fast-paced living, many of us find ourselves surrounded by people, yet feel deeply alone. Surface-level friendships may fill our calendars but not our hearts. So how do we go deeper?
True connection begins with authenticity. Drop the mask. Be willing to show your real self—your fears, hopes, even your awkwardness. Vulnerability invites vulnerability. When you open up, you give others permission to do the same.
Next, listen to understand, not just to respond. Ask thoughtful questions. Remember details. Be present. Emotional intimacy doesn’t come from talking more. It comes from listening better.
Shared experiences matter. Spend time in meaningful activities together: volunteering, traveling, or even having deep conversations without distractions. These moments create emotional anchors.
Lastly, consistency builds trust. Check in. Show up. Keep your word. Depth takes time, but the investment is worth it.
In a world that often celebrates the highlight reel, choose to stay for the full story. Real friendships are not found but built. Also, in this fast paced world, ambition is often glorified, while rest is mistaken for laziness. This imbalance can lead to burnout. People feel exhausted, emotionally drained, and disconnected from their purpose. So, they have issues creating deep connections with fellow people.
It’s important to set boundaries, and to listen to your mind and body. Value deep friendships as a foundation for long-term success. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
